"I’m not sure if it’s the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding... People give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate... And got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads up for the future :) [all sic]"

The conversation continues to spiral from there, with the guest at one point responding:

"The message you sent to me today was by far the most inconsiderate, immature, greedy and asinine thing I have every had the displeasure of seeing."

First reported by TheSpec.com in Canada, the meme is difficult to verify, but in some ways it doesn’t matter. Whether real or imagined, the conversation highlights the conundrum many of us face: What is appropriate etiquette when it comes to wedding gift giving?

What to give • According to a 2010 survey byTheKnot.com, the Beehive State is the least expensive place to get married, with couples spending $13,214 on the typical wedding. The cost of getting hitched may be lower here, but the quantity makes up for it; it’s common to get three or four wedding invitations a month during the peak late-spring-to-early-fall wedding season, and that can be tough on consumers, says Michelle Leo of Michelle Leo Events.

"We’re a state that has a high, high number of weddings," Leo said. "Most Utahns don’t have a typical wedding with a sit-down dinner. [Guests] don’t want to go all out and buy an expensive gift when it’s punch and cookies at an open house and I don’t blame them for that."

As a result, Utahns tend to spend less on wedding gifts — $15 to $50 on average — and group gifts are common, says etiquette expert Ellen Reddick of Salt Lake-based Impact Factory. She says deciding how much to spend is a personal decision.

"It’s hard to set a value, but you need to be guided by your budget," Reddick said. "Around $25 is quite comfortable for most everyone."